Court

Last Monday we were called into CYFD and asked to sign an intent to adopt form for Porter. This form is funny to me because it had three sections and at the end of each section it says, "This contract is not binding." Then why bother with it? This is my question.

Tuesday we had court so they could officially change his status from reunification to adoption. There was a lot more info shared here than I anticipated which is interesting since there are no parents and no one to contest.

Both of the previously potential fathers were suppose to be there with their respective lawyers so they could be dismissed from the case because both of them were ruled out with a 0% chance of being Porter's father. Only one of them were there although both lawyers were present. AS the one non dad was escorted in, dressed in orange and handcuffed, he met up wit his lawyer a the table where they would sit. In approximately 30 seconds flat said lawyer explains to him that he is not the father and case will be dismissed today.

Seriously? We have known for months. You couldn't find 5 minutes to let the man know he in fact did not have a son. You wait til he's in court hoping his family can take custody of him. Heartless! I lost respect or her and she was one of the local court appointed's that I had a bit of respect for.

Anyway, he was not ok with that. He said he did not believe the DNA test and would like to repeat it. He says Porter looks just like his family. On this point, having seen his face for about 45 seconds I would agree with. But the test says no. The CYFD lawyer and the judge both agreed that they count on these tests being accurate and the judge said he would not ask the state to pay for another one but that he was welcome to do one on his own.

I assume this would have to be arranged by one of his family members, and paid for by them also, since he is in jail. This doesn't concern me a huge amount because I tend to agree that the tests are accurate. Unless there was a huge mix up we are good.

The thing is wen he said these things, I felt compassion for him. I did not feel fear or feel any sort of competition with him. My heart just went out to him, He just wants so badly for Porter to be HIS son. I can relate to this because I want so badly for him to be MY son.